Our automatic thoughts create our feelings. So it comes to reason that if we can change those thoughts, we can change our feelings.
How do we do this?
Step 1: Catch yourself "thinking"
Next time someone says something for which you take offense or feel upset about, stop. Think back to the thoughts you had that triggered that emotion. What if you erased those thoughts? Wouldn't the subsequent emotions be erased as well? Try it.
Step 2: Stop those thoughts
By stopping those thoughts you suddenly become in control of them. They are no longer "reactionary" type thoughts. Rather they become consciously guided "responses". Choosing to discover a neutral or positive angle can positively influences your thoughts and thus, your feelings.
Step 3: Always Choose the Golden Pathway
There is always a golden pathway, a positive way of looking at things; the glass half full scenario. Certain situations that may at first seem unpleasant can be chalked up to "what a great learning experience" legitimately having helped prepare you for the future.
Step 4: Remember the Saying "Everything Happens for a Reason"
Oftentimes, looking back at scenarios that we wished hadn't occurred, we actually discover that because they did it led us to where we are that day. That is something that we would not have foreseen at the time. So, remembering this saying reminds us that although we may not feel happy, it could actually be the very best thing for us.
Step 5: smile, Smile, SMILE, S M I L E ! ! !
Right now, try this: Smile. Smile big. Notice how much better you feel. When we smile, things happen in our brain that actually do influence our mood. Plus, when we smile at other people, they generally smile too, giving us even more to smile about.
So next time you're down... No matter what thoughts come into your head, whether they are self-deprecating or intending for others, just smash them to pieces with a smile. They do not exist if you do not think about them. Be sure to also go to a mirror, and smile at yourself. Then remind yourself of a memory that made you laugh, giggle or feel intense love. ENJOY
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